Tips on meeting/befriending fun and interesting people outside of school?
I'm not a particularly social person and I find making friends a daunting task but somehow I manage it. My advice would be to look on your pants and see if there are any nerdfighter gatherings happening in your area. This how I meet some good friends of mine, it's particularly good if there isn't a really a well established community, that way everyone is kind of in the same boat. If there isn't any gatherings coming up, make one!
Try going places with friends and get them to invite mutual friends that you don't know. You might have some common interests.
Rachel's question about defriending her friend.
I didn't what to put as the question for this so that is why I have that.
I have lost a lot of friends over the years, lossing contact or being ditched for the "cooler kids" or a simple fall out leading to silence for over a year, so I feel I have some expertise in this field. I'm going from what you've said, I would say if you no longer speak and just drifted apart there's no need to delete her from your sites, but if you've had arguments, disagree over things and seeing her posts make you annoyed then delete.
You shouldn't worry about how she will react, that's not your problem any more because you are not friends. If she's upset over it, that's her problem not yours. Keep the people you care about and who care about you, no one else should matter.
I know I've not really wrote much about it and sure it will help but my feelings about friendship are pretty black and white.
Good advice on the friends thing. The nerdfighter community in my area is pretty small, but there are a few of us, so maybe I should just take the initiative and plan something. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteI also agree with you on Rachel's situation. As much as it sucks, if that's how she's treating you, I think it's probably best to just sever those ties so you can move on with your life.
Thanks for the advice Sophie, I appreciate it. At this point it's had me anxious about how it's changing me (i.e. the "reality show" effect, looking down on someone else to feel better about myself). I think I'll wait until my next Facebook purge and then delete her with the rest of the people I don't talk to anymore.
ReplyDeleteI also second the advice for finding new friends; it can be daunting, but it's totally worth it to find cool nerdfighters in the area.